Welcome
John Fleming founded Becoming You
out of a desire to share his own experience of becoming himself.
From a young age John has been driven by a desire to figure out
who he is, why he’s here and how he can belong
while being himself.
Becoming You Mission
To create experiences and opportunities to welcome all of who you are, supporting each of us to experience a deeper connection to self and grounded in our own identity.
Becoming You Vision
Imagine a world where it is ok for each of us to express and be who we truly are - where acceptance of difference and diversity is the norm. A world where everyone is included and celebrated.
Becoming You
Values
John's becoming journey
I grew up on a farm in rural West Cork, Ireland. The youngest of 6 children. I was the last (surprise) with a separation of 10 years between me and the youngest of my older siblings. This was significant as I was generationally different from them and I was a young, neurodiverse, queer boy in a traditional family and society. At that time, Irish society was only beginning its stumble out of the grips of the Catholic Church.
West Cork is a breathtakingly beautiful part of the world, on the edge of the wild Atlantic Ocean and it was because of its beauty and cheapness at the time, (Ireland was still quite a poor country in the 1970’ and 80’s), it attracted an incredibly diverse melting pot of people bringing with them alternative ways and beliefs. They were fondly and not always fondly known as ‘the blow-ins’. (Blown in by the winds of life).
Growing up in the 1990s meant that I was exposed to this diverse community which has been pivotal in shaping and moulding who I am today. My view of the world and the core values I now hold have been influenced strongly by this community, leading me to go out into the world with an open mind.
Growing Up
From a young age my difference was evident to me. I encountered bias, bullying many normative societal expectations at home and in school. Many invitations to suppress my true identity.
Luckily from any early age a sense of self was building inside me. I have a vivid memory of looking at myself in the mirror around 8 years old and seeing myself for the first time – every other time I had just seen my reflection. It was probably my first ‘aha’ moment – a surreal and almost out of body experience, I stared at myself for quite a long time soaking in the beginning of my connection to my true self. This sparked my curiosity and has informed me questioning; ‘Who am I’? And ‘Why am I here’?, at varying points throughout my life.
I also held the dual experience of being ‘seen’ for who I really was by enough of my family, teachers and community members to sustain and nurture my natural self. A key standout moment for me in this regard is when I came out as gay and my Mum said “well that’s ok because you’ll always be John!”, this really positively reinforced my sense of self.
Early Adulthood
After school I opted for working rather than study. I was a hard worker, loving systems, organisation and really good with people. Even as young as 17 I ended up in managerial positions quite quickly. At 18 I moved to the UK for work and at just 19 I was trained by my workplace to be a coach within the organisation.
From 25 onwards I studied psychology part-time for ten years and gobbled up other learning in the form of personal development workshops, retreats, body practices and other modalities. More and more, I learnt how to lean into myself and trust myself and get to know and love myself.
The latest chapter
All this working experience and learning has brought me far and wide physically, emotionally, energetically and spiritually. I am a classic seeker who has never been content with top layer information and as a result I have trained in a comprehensive blend of personal development & therapeutic modalities.
Becoming you is a culmination of all of who I am and what I have done in my life so far – it is an expression of me. My mission is to support those of you who land on my doorstep in your own uncovering. To embrace who you are becoming: Your emergent and magnificent self. To facilitate you to be you.
Namaste,
John
Associate Team
Oscar
Chief of Canine Support
Cork, Ireland
Meet Oscar, John’s Canine Companion. Oscar is a Golden Retriever whom John has has had in his life since he was a puppy.
Oscar is now a registered Therapy Dog with Therapy Dogs Ireland and he works with John as a support dog.
Oscar is friendly, gentle and deeply sensitive. He is happiest when outdoors and loves to play!
Rebecca Elston
Facilitator & Psychotherapist
Nottinghamshire, UK
I am inspired by the natural world, deep thinking, broad thinking and by learning & growing through the continual changes that are always around in life, seasonal shifts, advances in perspectives, evolution and research.
I am interested in working with the whole person. I hold awareness of ecological, systemic and intersectional factors in my work, looking at the individual and group as a part of a system and eco system.
I am committed to my professional world aligning with my personal values as much as possible and find peace in being me regardless of the role that I might be in.
Kamla De Hass
Facilitator & Coach
Curacao
I am conscious of energy. My journey in this world and lifetime makes me uniquely me. Formed by a concoction of adoption, marriage, physical and emotional abuse, divorce, single parenthood and entrepreneurship. Combined with all the rest of my programming and life experiences.
I am inspired by the behavioral dance between nature and nurture of human beings.
Life in itself and the life within each individual and how that liveliness or lack of influencing the collective.
I support others through my full presence in coaching trajectories, through my nurturing consciousness with systemic work and through my safe energy with somatic guidance.
Ana Mephan
Facilitator &
Holistic Therapist
Cork, Ireland
I was raised in a bohemian and free-spirited environment, I grew up with a natural sense of self and a deep appreciation for the mind-body connection. These roots have shaped my lighthearted, creative approach as a holistic therapist, where I blend massage therapy and kundalini reiki to support clients to find balance, peace, and renewal.
I intuitively tune into each client’s energy, allowing myself to provide exactly what they need in the moment—whether it’s physical relaxation, emotional release, or energetic alignment. My work is guided by a belief in the body’s innate ability to heal and the power of being fully present.
Grounded in the wisdom of my upbringing, I bring a warm and nurturing energy to every session, creating a safe space for growth and transformation.
Sarah Forristal
Facilitator &
Holistic Therapist
Cork, Ireland
I am passionate about nurturing a deep connection to the body and living through embodied experience. The many threads of my lived experience combine and express themselves through my creativity, groundedness, ability to hold space and connect with the inner world of the body. I am inspired by nature, cyclical wisdom, the sea, art, music, movement.
I am a Breathwork Practitioner and Holistic Therapist, with a rich and diverse background and many years of learning. I teach breathwork and also facilitate meditative breath journeys. I work one-to-one with clients through bodywork and breathwork and also host retreats and workshops. I support people in reconnecting to their body and their wisdom, integrating past experiences and embracing all of life.
My journey through Eastern healing traditions has significantly shaped my approach to wellness. I have come to see the body as a powerful vessel for transformation, and working with the breath is a key tool in unlocking its potential. Through my work as a Breathwork Practitioner and Holistic Therapist, I support clients reconnect with their bodies, release stored tension, and achieve greater capacity to embrace life fully.
Operations Team
Erika Crawte
Social Media Manager
Wicklow, Ireland
I am a creative human who turned my love for making videos and sharing stories into a full-blown business. These days, I get to help other creatives, business owners, and personal brands figure out this whole social media thing – without the overwhelm.
I lead with empathy because I feel deeply. That used to feel like a flaw, and now I see it as my superpower. I care deeply about my clients, their wins, their growth, and their confidence. That care is at the heart of everything I do.
I am inspired by watching people I work with go from “I could never do that” to “I just made this!” Seeing people’s personalities shine through their videos — messy, real, and unfiltered.
Katie Harris
Podcast Manager
Portugal
I am a multi passionate, creative and calming soul with a big lust for life! I am originally from Ireland and I’m currently living in a quiet surf town in Portugal with my fiance. I am a 6.2 Reflector in human design and I have been living with a rare disease called Addison’s Disease since 2021, I believe that my varied life experiences and roles bring a lot of diversity to my work.
I am inspired by travelling to new places, nature, making connections with people, seeing the bravery in others and the beauty in the everyday. I love storytelling as my grandfather was a storyteller and I get very inspired by hearing the stories of others.
We all have a voice to share and that is why I love supporting people to share their voice and reach more people through the power of podcasting. I support and empower my clients to share their voice and share their story through whichever medium they wish to express themselves.
Jackie Gowran
Business Mentor
Cork, Ireland
I am a business coach, trainer and mentor who specialises in nurturing individuals, blending traditional business training with a holistic, intuitive approach. I help business owners overcome obstacles, build their confidence, develop their business vision and to align their marketing and strategic planning accordingly.
My passion is all about helping people, teams and organisations figure out where they are, where they want to be, and then helping them get there.
I deliver profound and clear business knowledge and guidance to help you weave your heart and soul into your business.
